A withdrawal time is often a victory, and led the field is the most sentimental of the time a victory. Who has not ever pulled out of love? Well, I think most of us have ever left side and dignity have done or said things in the future weigh on us.
is amazing how full-fledged people are able to summon the Fallen Angel if necessary when our heart is touched and sunk by a rupture. Some people remains decent despite having thoughts of "that snake crawl" was the beloved and others become deaf, blind and do whatever it takes so to recover what they lost.
And I personally have always thought about breaking it must be very clear not leave things in the air or be ambiguous. If you tell someone "I think we should leave it for a while" you're being very selfish because time is something very relative How much time? 1 day, 2 months, 3 years? Ó "It's just that I have doubts," But what questions? You doubt if you want me to if you do not know what to do with your life? It's very different to doubt if you feel something for me, or whether it is something we are doing wrong and therefore could be arranged. I'm not saying that all the breaks have to be final and not make the effort to fix, I myself have experienced this situation and come a time when we know clearly that is not going to solve anything because the other does not fix much you put your feet as much get get hurt, frustrated and feel like crap.
This post comes a little collation of post I've read on the blog LA GATA, which speaks of a relationship of "Ex" are basically screwed and what is the reaction of her and him, I recommend that you read, and like it says in Melendi his song, in love and war there is always a loser.
I believe if I remember correctly I read Lauren's blog "Log of a single" the "stages of grief and overcome obstacles to break" (I recommend you tb you read if you are going through) were impact, denial, grief and depression, guilt, anger, resignation and Reconstruction .. well as there are people between the impact and denial become paralyzed and do not know how to follow, are tied to the denial as at straws and are not able to recognize that the person they wanted, and no is with them and begin a journey of harassment, emotional blackmail, tears, reproaching everything you've given this relationship and etc. .. if you do not remember correctly this is called "phenomenon of butterfly in the fire" than about the butterfly attracted by the flame burning and yet not change their behavior, you do the same, the only thing that can happen is that scalded leave or with the dignity and self-esteem in tatters.
When this happens I think we should stop for a moment and think that maybe it is not confusing love forestay possession, sex-dependent, attention and intrusion blackmail fondly Why I can not get over it? During the process of a painful breakup I bought the book "I no longer suffer for love" by Lucia Etxebarria, regardless of the People like this woman or not and I can not share all their views, there are many things in the book to help you reflect on the behavior during the relationship and during the break.
I also think is important is if you've been through this and you are someone who has been humiliated think no more, done is done, think positive, good to be in the background is that I can only go up, do not martirices, has passed and you learned (I hope) that does not help, there is a limit between what is done and it is respectable to save a relationship and it is humiliating for you and worrying for the other person.
No plot to thee, nothing I tell the other person will love you again if you no longer want, you may think, if I tell him I'm going to kill, or am I pregnant or something similar, well, most likely is that you give him grief, and one thing is to keep a person at your side in spite of everything, and quite another to love you back.
It should be on the other side much courage and patience to face these kinds of reactions, because the longer course is always the victim and the worst it passed and no one stops to think that the role of who is leaving may be much worse, blame, harassment, etc ... and think that many times how easy it would follow that person and then do what you want and give yet make the decision.
Ultimately all more or less have been through a situation, and only depends on you and deal with it. This is my opinion, and if it is always easier said than done, with this I say, not trying to be patronizing or thank me for what I am, if you have another opinion because you know the song ... comment ...
One more thing, time heals all wounds may sometimes stinging, but nothing is forever, not even pain.
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